In the never-ending drama that had become my life in the last year, I lost a few things, mostly material, some not so much. I look back at a year with some regret for once, but not much… you see, this quote I found over at Gina’s today pushed that sadness well and truly out of my heart.<\/p>\n
\u201cFriends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself \u2013 and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That\u2019s what real love amounts to \u2013 letting a person be what he really is.\u201d – Jim Morrison<\/p><\/blockquote>\n
\nI expected too much, both professionally and personally, from the friends I lost. I expected that sharing our hurts and happiness would go both ways, not just from me. I noticed – they may think I didn’t, but I did – that most of the chatter came from me, and it was rarely if ever happy<\/em> chatter. <\/p>\nI always tried to remember to ask how things were with their families, with them, what was new, what was up. I did want to know, I wanted to share<\/em> their lives with them, share<\/em> a friendship… But I rarely received a response, and even once was told it was none of my business. <\/p>\n
Okay. <\/p>\n
Hints – subtle and not so subtle – taken. <\/p>\n
I would have been happy for and with them, had they shared their happy news with me, instead of… nothing. I would have been sad for and with them, if they’d shared that. I certainly never meant to be a ‘drama’ in their lives; I just didn’t fully realize I wasn’t a part their lives until recently. During chat one night with someone I know still considers me to be a friend, the realization hit that I was not really, nor had I been for a very long time, a part of those other lives (see the non-sharing up there). <\/p>\n
Perhaps someday they can forgive me for being such a dark spot on their lives. Friendship does go both ways, though, and while I wish they would have told me upfront rather than running away, in the spirit of Jim Morrison’s quote up there, I am happy they are happy. I wish them all the best. <\/p>\n
The hints, they have spoken. <\/p>\n
\nRegretfully they tell us,
\nBut firmly they compel us
\nTo say goodbye to you.<\/p>\nSo Long<\/p>\n
Farewell<\/p>\n
Auf wiedersehen<\/p>\n
Goodbye<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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