PP – Yule With The Kids

By Jodi Lee
~Originally Published November 2000~
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Please note that our familial circumstances have changed since this article was written. I have removed the paternal influence’s name from the article at my daughters’ request.

As I described incessantly in my “Christmas With The Family” article, we celebrate both Yule and Christmas in this house. The girls get a single gift on Yule night, and that’s the night we have our family dinner, just the four of us. It’s rarely the traditional fare that most think of for the season…most years it’s been pizza from Pizza Hut. And invariably I tell this story to the girls every year on Yule Night. We light candles, and I cast a circle (not by any means formally). Inside our circle, we have our dinner, J. and I have wine, and the girls have milk. We share our dinner, and then the presents, and then they want the stories. I first tell them of the Goddess, and how every year she has a baby, on this very night. That baby is Lugh, and he brings light, and warmth back to the world. His shining golden face shines over us every day, just as his mother’s face shines upon us this night. After this story, if they don’t ask for the myth of Rhiannon and Pwyll, they ask for the story of how we began celebrating Yule as a family..and why it’s so different from other families (not in the Pagan / Christian way either).

Our non-traditional Yule started the year Rhiannon was one, and Carrie was still small enough I could hold her in one arm. I was exhausted (midnight, two and four AM feedings), J. and I were technically separated, although he spent a lot of time at my place helping with both girls and keeping the heaters going, and neither of us were employed. J. had received a fairly large amount of money from his former employer, and I had just received a large monetary gift from an aunt, to be spent on the girls and myself in equal parts. It was a belated baby/wedding gift.

As J. and I talked out how we were going to work our budgets for the month, we didn’t include the gift from my aunt. That money was to make the season special for our girls. It was to be Carrie’s first Christmas, and Rhiannon was just old enough to get into things herself.

The call came later that afternoon, just before we were to go and start the shopping. A job offer that literally opened up the season, and helped us get back on our feet both financially and as a couple.

Let me go back just one year earlier. Rhiannon was 3 months old, still one of the tiniest babies my family had ever seen (she was two months premature), and dressed in a wonderful little suit of white and red…our families were gathered at the courthouse, and J. and I were making it official. We’d lived together for several years, had suffered the loss of pregnancies, had gone through Rhiannon’s birth and struggle for life, and miraculous recovery. We knew we were to be together…why not just sign the paper and get it “officialized” by the law’s eyes?

The day was December 17th, 1993. We didn’t really think much about it before we did it. I had hinted that I wanted to, and so had J.. Looking over Rhiannon’s head during a feeding, our eyes met, and we just – decided. Later that day, we went and got the license. Neither of us knew that we needed to provide a date of ceremony. We stood there, with what I am sure were the stupidest looks anyone could have, and asked for a calendar.

We chose Monday, December 20th. Three days to tell our families and friends. That scared me more than the actual formality, the finality of it all. But I knew I had chosen the right day…what better way to spend Yule? We married, feasted with my family, and went home to candles, circle, and wine – and the honeymoon. Ahem…(blush)

Going back to ’94…J.’s new job was to begin immediately after Christmas. To celebrate our anniversary, and the girl’s first Yule, we went to a local town, took the girls to stores (even then, at two and a half months old, Carrie’s eyes lit up when she saw the mall…not a good sign for the future..), and Rhiannon picked out her gift and Carrie’s gift. It was starting to snow, so instead of staying in town to eat at a restaurant, we picked up pizzas from Pizza Hut. On the way through the neighboring town to go home, we stopped and picked up the wine.

In the livingroom at home, we set everything up for Rhiannon, Carrie, J. and I to have our first Yule meal as a complete family. I walked the circle with Carrie in my arms, and then sat down with her in my lap. J. passed Rhiannon her bottle, and a slice of cheese pizza. Her very first pizza! What the heck, I figured, and stuck a corner of the piece I held in my hand in Carrie’s mouth…(another no-no, now she can’t get enough pizza..). She made a face, but she loved it. I placed her on the floor beside Rhiannon, and she immediately went to sleep.

Later on, after I released the circle and put Carrie in her crib, and Rhiannon in her crib, we set up the tree, a gift from my mother to Rhiannon the year before. We wrapped the presents we had purchased for Christmas, and spent the rest of the night talking, enjoying each other. When Rhiannon woke in the middle of the night, instead of just calming her back to sleep, I brought her down and showed her the tree…her little face was so animated with wonder and surprise…it’s an image I will never forget.

Jodi Lee – is a freelance writer/editor living in southern Manitoba, Canada.
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This article can be republished elsewhere in its entirety so long as the author is notified (see contact information), a link is provided to the website, and this notice is left intact.

PP – Review of Circle Round

By Jodi Lee
~Originally Published October 2000~
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Circle Round – Raising Children in Goddess Traditions
by: Starhawk – Diane Baker – Anne Hill

I have been parenting for many years, not just with my own children, but also being a substitute mother for my much younger brothers when they visit. For more years than I care to remember, I have looked for a pagan book on parenting, and the stages of life. I think I even went so far as to post on various newsgroups in my frustration. And I believe it was on one of those newsgroups that someone told me he thought Starhawk had a parenting book on the market.

Well, that message began a three month search in local bookstores. No one seemed to have it, and of course without travelling to the city there was no one who would order it in.

Off we went to the city. Looked here, looked there, finally found a copy in the quaint shop – Prairie Sky (if you are ever in the city of Winnipeg, Manitoba – this is the place to visit for friendly pagan/new-age atmosphere in a small shop). I suppose I could have asked Chapters or Barnes & Noble to order one in, but I have the patience of a two year old, so I hunted instead (Grin).

On the trip home, my hands kept opening the book, almost of their own volition. I refuse to read in a car – nasty bouts of car sickness have ensued from my addiction to the written word. But, there I was, flipping through pages and picking out the odd bit to read. I was fascinated! First of all, Bantam had done the world a service by using toned paper (a kind of creamy color) and a dark green ink for illustrations and print. Not only is it better on the eyes in a car, but also if one happens to be reading under the bright sun, or by a lamp. Getting back on track however, this is the first book I had read that is the collaborative effort of three women, who all seemingly agreed with each other, or at least managed to keep from storming out in a huff. That amazes me in itself!

The book that has come from these three remarkable women has given myself, and my children many moments of happiness, as I read the stories to them, work on a craft with them, sing to them (ack – ok, perhaps they don’t enjoy listening to mommy’s terribly off-key singing). With wonderful explanations of each area of a Goddess Tradition, to the Sun and Moon cycles, to a full area for each Sabbat – including activities, songs, crafts and stories. Think that’s it? Guess again!

Following the Sabbat chapters, comes the Life Cycle. The stages of life are covered here, from birth to coming of age, and beyond. The Circle of Elements covers all that is contained in the Pentacle – Earth, Air, Fire, Water and Spirit.

This book has changed a lot of the ways I have dealt with questions from children, my own and others. Previously, I would stammer and not be sure of what to say, and now, I can give them answers to questions asked in terms they understand a little easier. I love it! If you don’t already have it – go out and beg, borrow or buy it!

Moon Soup
fr.page 66 / Moon Cycle

Use your favorite recipe to make black bean soup. Its dark color serves as the “night sky”.

To make “moons” and “stars” float on the soup “sky”, beat yogurt or sour cream (about a quarter cup per serving) until it’s the consistency of heavy cream, thinning it with milk if necessary. Pouring carefully from a cup with a spout, dribble crescent moons near the sides of each bowl. Accent with tiny drops for stars.

For a full moon, pour the yogurt or sour cream into a spiral. With the back of a spoon, stroke the spiral gently until the white liquid has blended together to form a floating moon.

For a vegan moon soup, slice thin pieces of pale soy cheese, then with a cookie cutter or sharp knife cut out moon and star shapes and float them in the soup.

Above quote used by permission granted for reviews


Jodi Lee – is a freelance writer/editor living in southern Manitoba, Canada.
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This article can be republished elsewhere in its entirety so long as the author is notified (see contact information), a link is provided to the website, and this notice is left intact.

PP – Review of SRW’s Teen Witch Kit

By Jodi Lee
(warning – contains heavy sarcasm)
~Originally Published October 2000 – re-written and recently re-published in newWitch Magazine, Issue #07. Republish not permitted.~

I know I’ll likely lose my happy standing with Llewellyn publishers over this review, however, I cannot in good conscience, smile and choke out the words “It’s wonderful”. In fact, I won’t.

When the card came in the mail letting me know it would be available for review, I thought, ok, here’s a chance to actually see the Kit, and form an honest opinion on it. That was not to be, at least, not for a while. It seems the Kit was already back-ordered! Advance copies and review copies had already taken out the first available sets.

“Hmmm, maybe it’s better than we all thought.” WRONG!

Two months after having requested it, the Kit arrived in it’s little envelope. I rushed home from the post office before trudging off to do the mundane tasks of everyday life, simply to take a brief look at the contents of that package. I ripped the tear seal, and slid the book into my hands. Pretty as it is, and it IS pretty, I began to smell cheapness…Now don’t get me wrong, cheap can be good…Goddess knows I have spent hours searching for great deals on books and clothes and what-have-you. But this piece is going to cost American youth (that IS the target market after all) $24.95. In Canada however, it’s been priced anywhere from $34.95 to a whopping $45.00.

I have wandered off track now haven’t I? Ah, the mental wanderings of a witch on a soapbox! ;-)

The “box” the Kit is in, is actually an open-backed container, meaning the enclosed book serves as a back. The cover of the “box” will fold down once the book is removed, and lo! It’s an altar! Not just any altar, but one made of plastic, with little moon cycle symbols pressed into it. A shlocky, and I don’t like to put down any jewelry people, but this is the epitome of the word, pentacle is enclosed – not silver, but painted soft metal. The charm bag is pretty, but not really functional for anything more than small amulets. The Golden “Wish” cord is another bit of un-necessary fluff. The crystal, well, let’s just say I held that crystal in my hand, and I didn’t think, nor do I think now, that it’s quartz as claimed. It doesn’t feel right, and after months of working with the most energetic and beautiful crystals available (ok, as far as I am concerned they are – see my store site) and having compared the the SRW crystal with one from the mines in Arkansas; after describing the SRW crystal to many people online, some of whom are constantly working with minerals, none of us think this is quartz. Many think it’s cut glass crystal, but without taking it in for analysis, I can’t be sure. And the book – well, I’d rather not write a book on the in-consistencies and trivialities of that book.

The only saving grace in the entire package was the coins that were enclosed. One Goddess/God coin, and one for divination. They were up to “snuff” for me…(grin) I do believe they are the only real useful tool in the whole kit, and I hope that kids that are purchasing the kit will look for more useful ways of employing them.

SRW may have her fans, but as far as I am concerned, “If I don’t do it, someone else will” excuse for putting out the Teen Witch Kit just does not cut it with me, nor with many others.

I tried being objective with this – I did. But it’s hard to do when something is so mass produced and quite obviously for profit only. Definitely two thumbs down…

Jodi Lee – is a freelance writer/editor living in southern Manitoba, Canada.

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